In my show tomorrow Wednesday 14 March, i talk about how our subconscious/unconscious chooses a partner based on chemistry...the purpose of this is to heal a certain wound, or to fulfill a certain need from childhood... what this means is that we are faced with certain partners in our lives so we can fulfill and heal that which our parents and caretakers could not. With that said an exercise that is very beneficial is to write down all the positive and negative aspects of your father and your mother, and you will have a blue print of a type of imago or image of a partner you will attract to heal certain wounds. When we don't learn from a certain experience or we do not heal, we keep attracting similar characteristics... uncovering the past, and consciously taking note of all the similar negative and positive traits of all your partners will give you a hint of what you need to heal...until that wound is healed no forward movement can take place...
But we cant expect our partners to heal or fulfill everything... so while we are in an in the meantime process, getting to know yourself is key...below are some questions that you can complete, do this exercise as fast as possible, as you need your intuition to complete the sentence in order to hook into the real you, to find out about yourself...and possibly why you are where you are :-)
My goal in life is...
The thing that gives me most satisfaction is...
My childhood was...
I think sex is...
When i make love i prefer...
My deepest fear is...
My deepest need is...
My most frequent feeling is...
The thing i hate most is...
I worry most about...
My goals for my primary relationship are...
My reason for wanting a relationship is...
I think my relationships have been...
Three things about myself i want to change...
I Fantasize about...
I feel anger when....
I think i am...
My highest value is...
A nude body is...
I am happiest when...
To me work is...
When i go to a party, i...
The person i admire most is...
To me, death...
I have no use for people who...
I am afraid of...
When someone is rude to me, i ...
I cant understand people who believe...
In general i think my strengths are...
For more on this topic listen to OWT RADIO tomorrow from 10am... all info is on www.otherworldstomorrow.com
Tuesday, 13 March 2012
Tuesday, 21 February 2012
How our needs when it comes to love sometimes lead us down a hell road
Today my blog is based on a very famous book by Inyanla Vanzant - In the meantime... her view point and mine are very much the same... one needs self love in order to make any relationship work... so the key to healthy and functional relationships is always to love, fulfill and improve yourself first as then anyone who comes into your life can enrich it.
We all have needs, we want to be accepted, loved, taken care of, understood... but what we dont realize is if we dont practice self love first our needs can lead us into dark corners...when it comes to love matters many of us seem to always end up someplace we do not want to be...we as human beings have to start becoming aware of our patterns and how we function to get our needs met... if that is not done we cant change or attract anything different into our lives.
These are the 13 most common things we do for love, each and every one of these points will inevitably fail to meet our needs taking us down a hell road, lost and confused...less loved than before.
1. All the signs say this is not the one, but you ignore your intuition and move ahead into a love fantasy.
2. Because you fear being alone, or because you believe you cant have what you want in a relationship you accept the first person that comes along.
3. You confuse friendship and niceness with romantic love.
4. Because someone is nice to you, and you are not used to it, you don't know how to say no, when you realize they are not for you.
5. You get caught up in the packaging and promises.
6. You force your desires for a relationship on to another person and force and ultimatum, and because the person does want to hurt you goes along with you...for a while.
7. Because the other person expresses an interest in you, you respond without really exploring if this is who you are or what you want.
8. You allow blind faith lead to blind love, to take you into an unhealthy situation.
9. You choose to believe that what your partner has done to another person s/he will not do to you.
10. Sexual compatibility is mistaken for love
11. You stay in a relationship although you are miserable, trying to work things out although your partner is not interested, and does nothing about it.
12. You don't express what you really feel because you don't want to hurt your partner.
13. You choose to believe your partners lies even when you know the truth, you act like you don't know what is going on when you do.
All these points will keep you stuck and in a pattern of dissolution... make the changes within yourself... respect and love yourself...and most importantly communicate and be honest with yourself and the people around you.
More on this topic in my Radio show tomorrow...
www.otherworldstomorrow.com
We all have needs, we want to be accepted, loved, taken care of, understood... but what we dont realize is if we dont practice self love first our needs can lead us into dark corners...when it comes to love matters many of us seem to always end up someplace we do not want to be...we as human beings have to start becoming aware of our patterns and how we function to get our needs met... if that is not done we cant change or attract anything different into our lives.
These are the 13 most common things we do for love, each and every one of these points will inevitably fail to meet our needs taking us down a hell road, lost and confused...less loved than before.
1. All the signs say this is not the one, but you ignore your intuition and move ahead into a love fantasy.
2. Because you fear being alone, or because you believe you cant have what you want in a relationship you accept the first person that comes along.
3. You confuse friendship and niceness with romantic love.
4. Because someone is nice to you, and you are not used to it, you don't know how to say no, when you realize they are not for you.
5. You get caught up in the packaging and promises.
6. You force your desires for a relationship on to another person and force and ultimatum, and because the person does want to hurt you goes along with you...for a while.
7. Because the other person expresses an interest in you, you respond without really exploring if this is who you are or what you want.
8. You allow blind faith lead to blind love, to take you into an unhealthy situation.
9. You choose to believe that what your partner has done to another person s/he will not do to you.
10. Sexual compatibility is mistaken for love
11. You stay in a relationship although you are miserable, trying to work things out although your partner is not interested, and does nothing about it.
12. You don't express what you really feel because you don't want to hurt your partner.
13. You choose to believe your partners lies even when you know the truth, you act like you don't know what is going on when you do.
All these points will keep you stuck and in a pattern of dissolution... make the changes within yourself... respect and love yourself...and most importantly communicate and be honest with yourself and the people around you.
More on this topic in my Radio show tomorrow...
www.otherworldstomorrow.com
Tuesday, 14 February 2012
Facing your fears
Any life challenges present you with an opportunity to face your fears and to grow... if you can stop blaming others, and take responsibility for your own life then you can easily stop a recurring problem...whenever there is fear then you know that needs to be addressed.
When you are ready to face your fears you have these opportunities ahead of you:
1. Every problem presents you with an opportunity to demonstrate who YOU want to be, and how you want to act and react...stop, look and listen.
2.Realize that every emotion and reaction either benefits you in a positive or negative way...these are called PAYOFFS... drama is a pay off, and so is staying stuck in a negative pattern or comfort zone, facing your fears and changing your payoffs can help you move forward.
3.Change and facing your fears allows you to look at unresolved emotions that need to be dealt with...
-give yourself permission to feel
-modify your feeling... stay away from addictions like eating
-listen to your body
-write your problems out of the body
-talk the problem out of the body
-Move on, stop talking about it and reliving it.
-say goodbye to what could have been
-forgiveness of self and others are the key to freedom
Working on yourself can be a rewarding and fulfilling journey, but work is required...you have nothing to fear, just face every situation and then life will flow easier. :-)
My show this week is on this topic to hear the show go to www.otherworldstomorrow.com
When you are ready to face your fears you have these opportunities ahead of you:
1. Every problem presents you with an opportunity to demonstrate who YOU want to be, and how you want to act and react...stop, look and listen.
2.Realize that every emotion and reaction either benefits you in a positive or negative way...these are called PAYOFFS... drama is a pay off, and so is staying stuck in a negative pattern or comfort zone, facing your fears and changing your payoffs can help you move forward.
3.Change and facing your fears allows you to look at unresolved emotions that need to be dealt with...
-give yourself permission to feel
-modify your feeling... stay away from addictions like eating
-listen to your body
-write your problems out of the body
-talk the problem out of the body
-Move on, stop talking about it and reliving it.
-say goodbye to what could have been
-forgiveness of self and others are the key to freedom
Working on yourself can be a rewarding and fulfilling journey, but work is required...you have nothing to fear, just face every situation and then life will flow easier. :-)
My show this week is on this topic to hear the show go to www.otherworldstomorrow.com
Tuesday, 7 February 2012
Facial Expressions
Do you know that the average human being has 7000 expressions... that's a lot... facial expressions are universally recognizable, that means without even saying a word you would be able to recognize sadness, happiness or anger from anyone in Asia, Europe, America or anywhere... this is amazing, but what it also says to me is that we need to be careful about how we portray these expressions, remembering that the world is our mirror...most of the time a facial expression happens in a millisecond, and an expression is directly linked to our emotions, so people can very easily read our emotions through our expressions, if this expression is a happy expression then its no problem, its when we portray an angry, or negative expression that we then attract that... the world and us as humans always filter back and forth what is fed to us, so we can influence each other by not even saying a word but just projecting it through our expression...this week see what you see in the people around you, do you see negative expressions everywhere or do you see positive expressions everywhere, and then turn it to yourself, is this what you are expressing... :-) something to think about...
This topic will be discussed more in detail in my radio show tomorrow, Wednesday 8 Feb from 10 am CAT, looping all day...listen by going to www.otherworldstomorrow.com
This topic will be discussed more in detail in my radio show tomorrow, Wednesday 8 Feb from 10 am CAT, looping all day...listen by going to www.otherworldstomorrow.com
Tuesday, 24 January 2012
Angels and Guardians
In this weeks radio show i will be talking more in depth about angels and guradians... Did you know that angels are a major force in every major faith tradition, and are probably one of the few things that all world religion agree on... i find that facinating...
Guardian angels have never been human, but are an entirely diffenrent energy form to us, usually our guardian angels show up at our conception or our birth and stay with us our whole lives...unlike Guardians or guides who may change a few times during our lives...
Guides or guardians have lived human lives before and differ from angels. Angels however can appear to us in human forms, thus helping us...to become more aware and closer to your angel a simple way to start speaking to them is to say this little prayer every night before bed:
Angel of God, guardian dear
to whom Gods love commits me here
ever this day be at my side
to light, to guard, to rule, to guide.
For more info on this topic listen to my radio show tomorrow from 10am CAT looping all day... you can tune in by going to www.otherwolrdstomorrow.com and going to the radio page, or you can download the LIVE365 app for your tab or smartphone.
Guardian angels have never been human, but are an entirely diffenrent energy form to us, usually our guardian angels show up at our conception or our birth and stay with us our whole lives...unlike Guardians or guides who may change a few times during our lives...
Guides or guardians have lived human lives before and differ from angels. Angels however can appear to us in human forms, thus helping us...to become more aware and closer to your angel a simple way to start speaking to them is to say this little prayer every night before bed:
Angel of God, guardian dear
to whom Gods love commits me here
ever this day be at my side
to light, to guard, to rule, to guide.
For more info on this topic listen to my radio show tomorrow from 10am CAT looping all day... you can tune in by going to www.otherwolrdstomorrow.com and going to the radio page, or you can download the LIVE365 app for your tab or smartphone.
Monday, 16 January 2012
The Mind/Body Debate
I always find it so interesting when people have a debate about what is real or what is not... especially when it comes to what drives us...our "Soul" aka "Mind" or our Brain? I even had this discussion with a family member the other day, and what became evident is that we all very much see life, spirituality, the world, the future and science very differently, depending also what we believe, how we were brought up, and how we are influenced by society... the debate i had was about evolution and science versus spirituality, and I'm sure many families, and friends have had similar conversations and discussions... if you know me you know i come from a spiritual point of view, but science interests me very much, i love reading about the brain, and about the earth from a proven point of view, but my question to myself always is when will we stop trying to prove everything and start trusting... Scientist go as far as trying to prove faith, the sixth sense, and the soul, many of them believing the Brain is our "soul" and when the human body dies that we die to... spiritualist believe that we are eternal and that the body only perishes... so my question to you, who are we? Our Mind/Soul...or our Brain? It is up to you to decide, and to feel what feels right... on this weeks Radio show on Wednesday i will be discussing how this debate has been going on for thousands of years, and probably will continue until one day all will be clear... i believe there is much more out there than just our Brain... because what are we otherwise doing on earth? :-)
Monday, 9 January 2012
Success lies in your daily habits
If you are serious about living a life you love...it is very important to create a routine that becomes part of your daily life... this routine will help you connect to yourself, your emotions and intuition, as well as to Spirit. If you put yourself first you can much easier help others that if you do it the other way around :-) Below are some examples of how you can regain your energy, reconnect to self and grow:
1 Make time for meditation/prayer/relaxation
2 Make time for reading or listening to your favorite music
3 Exercise
4 Research or read about your favorite topics
5 Learn a new skill
6 Plan for things you can look forward to
7 Every day make an effort or take a step towards completing or achieving the goals you have set for yourself
Giving yourself 15-30 minutes daily to do some of the examples above will help you achieve success that will last :-)
Have a great and successful 2012... for more info on this topic listen to my radio show on Wednesday 11 Jan on www.otherworldstomorrow.com
1 Make time for meditation/prayer/relaxation
2 Make time for reading or listening to your favorite music
3 Exercise
4 Research or read about your favorite topics
5 Learn a new skill
6 Plan for things you can look forward to
7 Every day make an effort or take a step towards completing or achieving the goals you have set for yourself
Giving yourself 15-30 minutes daily to do some of the examples above will help you achieve success that will last :-)
Have a great and successful 2012... for more info on this topic listen to my radio show on Wednesday 11 Jan on www.otherworldstomorrow.com
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