Controlling Behaviour

How do you know when you are helping someone or trying to control their lives? every day i listen to people who interfere into other peoples lives, unknowingly obviously, because we are raised to always try and rescue people... this however is breeding a generation of victims, control freaks and too interfering individuals, not trusting other people or themselves enough to make decisions...my rule of thumb for this is: *only give advice when asked other wise just listen *let the other person come up with some solutions first before giving yours - this is very empowering! *do not live in the ego thinking you know best, sometimes we learn the most through mistakes, so let the people around you make them... *be aware of your own fears, as usually we project them on to others...we all have our own lives to live...concentrate on YOURS, and let others concentrate on THEIRS. :-)